As much as we’d like it to, things don’t always go our way at work. The boss hates our work, we have a disagreement with a colleague, we get passed over for promotion. Sh*t happens. It’s how we deal with it that counts.
Resilience is something I took a while to develop. I’m easily dented by failure or criticism and I haven’t always taken it well. I’ll admit. There have been tears. Very public tears. But every painful and humiliating incident has built up my resilience to the point I now take a very different view.
- Every failure takes me closer to success
As the title of Pema Chodron’s book says fail, fail again, fail better. Learning to accept failure has been one of the most liberating mind-shifts I’ve experienced. It’s a numbers game. Each failure is a teacher that brings us closer to success.
2. I’d rather not make a mistake, but I’m human and it will happen now and again
We all make mistakes. One mistake isn’t the end of the world and how we deal with them is often more important than the mistake itself. Take responsibility and always learn from the lessons presented.
3. Criticism is a gift
Feedback is a valuable tool in our career development. Seek out criticism and use it to hone your skills and actions. If the criticism isn’t constructive, it’s likely the comment says more about them than you.
4. Wellness comes before business
Bouncing back is much harder to do if you are tired or unwell. Ensure you’re getting enough sleep, try yoga nidra or meditation. And of course eat well and exercise regularly.
5. I don’t need to be liked by everyone
Being likeable is important. Being liked by everyone isn’t.